Hello you all, I hope this blog entry encourages you in your marriage and future marriage. I now attend Free Chapel church pastored by Jentezen Franklin. I was not going to go to church today because I was feeling emotionally drained this weekend (2/24/2024). My church has been doing a marriage series for February. I said to myself, “I don’t want to go because I am divorced. But I know I will learn something and I need to be around other worshippers.” I haven’t shared about my divorce on social media because ummm, it’s no one’s business. But I do speak about it in some of my bible teachings on marriage content to those who follow my ministry.

I have been divorced since November 2022 after a 7-year marriage and a 10-year relationship. (Some older folks have said that year 7 is the test and the Bible says this is the year that people go free. So in essence, God set me free from a marriage that was no longer serving any godly purpose…that’s all I am going to say about that).

But don’t worry! God healed my broken heart within a few months and he took me through a series of fiery trials to build me back up and closer to him. I do not have any regrets because I have three beautiful children who everyone calls blessed. I wake up every day hearing the birds sing, seeing the sunrise and cows graze in the distance, feeling energized, happy, and full of purpose. I have a new and better life because of God’s grace and my faith. I also feel like a better mother and daughter of God because I am no longer overworked, tired, and depressed.

I worked hard on myself because divorce feels like death. It’s a feeling that no one knows unless experienced. I had to pray for forgiveness for those who hurt me and forgive myself for my sins. God restored me and I am now living better than I have ever before. I am the happiest that I’ve been in my life, and I will never ever put anyone above myself or God. [The girls that get it…get it! You cannot pour from an empty cup. Don’t ever put a man before yourself].

I learned many lessons, and now I can help others as a prophetic minister (calling) and therapist (career). I am so blessed because I learned to quickly forgive so that I can live in total freedom. I have no hate in my heart because I am full of God’s love. So you won’t ever see me bashing my ex on social media. God has dealt with me and I don’t care anymore. I’m free!

So why was I emotionally drained if I am healed of heartbreak? Because I was in a 10-year relationship and now I am experiencing what many women on social media talk about concerning dating. It sucks! I have been single for a little while now and my heart is open for remarriage. It’s just difficult because it feels as if God is preventing me from dating because he has me reserved for “the appointed one.” I can hear God’s voice so this is difficult to explain here. But you will know in your spirit how to discern the seasons of your life when you have a daily intimate relationship with God. This is why I teach daily bible reading and prayer! 🙂

The frustration of being rejected, ghosted, and overlooked by single men sucks. But I know in my spirit that this single season won’t last. The Bible says that is not good for man to be alone and that he created the woman to be his helpmeet. Divorce sucks and singleness can get lonely.

But I have learned to draw even closer to God in this season. I felt so stripped in life that all I had was God left. I cried and screamed many days when my children were asleep or away. I felt totally alone and betrayed. Then, I finally surrendered my entire life…And this is where He wanted me to be all along. So don’t ignore the signs. God will do whatever it takes to get your eyes back on him so that you trust in Him ALONE!

I went to counseling for depression before and after divorce, read many books, fasted, prayed, sowed, and purchased several costly marriage teachings by Christian ministers. It cost a lot of money, time, tears, sacrifice, and fighting my flesh, but I am worth it. You are worth it. God is a rewarder of those who obey His word and seek His face! So don’t ever give up on any promise of God.

We don’t obey God for nothing. There are blessings for obedience. I put in a lot of work to better myself – including [a] $500 etiquette class to upgrade my appearance and speech. I will not settle. I trust that the Lord will connect me with a man of high esteem, integrity, diligence, godliness, and of course, good looks! 🙂

Don’t live in condemnation. Forgive yourself and upgrade yourself and God will bring the right person in your life at the right time. I am prepared to love again, and the man that God has for me will only find me by finding God. He must seek God to find me because I am totally in love with Jesus and will not settle!

If you desire marriage, prepare yourself, obey God’s direction, and be patient while keeping your body and life pure. Marriage takes a lot of work. But two are better than one right!?

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